Sharing my story isn’t always easy to do but I do know not sharing can leave you voiceless in the world.
So, I decided to share six common mistakes I have made in my 20’s that I’m now learning shouldn’t be repeated again during my lifetime or invest in the opportunity in doing better as I get older.
1. Giving Up On Dreams
One of the worst things I did throughout my 20’s was giving up on my dreams easily due to fear of failure, lack of support or not finishing what I started.
By doing this, it has left me wondering with what if and that’s a terrible feeling to have because it has left me with regrets. So many times, I wanted to be an individual experiencing life whether that was through traveling, starting my own business, independence and so forth. Whenever I had hit a bump in the road, I would let that completely stop me and wouldn’t allow myself to continue any further. I use to think that those bumps and curves meant my dreams weren’t attainable and that meant to give up right then and there.
2. Letting the Haters In
In my early 20’s, my haters were very successful talking in my ears. Unfortunately, it was my inner circle who discouraged me the most. They had so much power over me that it affected me in a lot of ways. I use to care about what they thought of me, what they wanted me to be, how I went about in accomplishing my goals. The constant approval from them was extremely exhausting and dissatisfying.
Living for someone else approval definitely taught me that was a huge mistake for my self-confidence. At the time I wasn’t strong enough to stand on my own and believe in my own self-worth to do what I needed to do to make my dreams into reality.
The moral of the lesson is don’t share your dreams with small minded people who are constantly negative and can’t advise you in the direction you want to go. Especially when they are nowhere near where you want to be in life. Just let the haters hate while you try to live your best life.
3. Not Taking Risks
In my 20’s, I use to play things too safely. I use to believe if I did things the “right” way and do it in the order of how society wants me to live then everything in my life would come into place and magically work out for me.
Well, I was completely wrong. Playing safe made me miss out on so many opportunities and it has also made me feel incomplete.
Not taking risks meant not putting everything I wanted on the line to live my best life as time went on. The world is much bigger than the box I was living in. I couldn’t create my opportunities while expecting different results at the same time. My growth could never come from my comfort zone and that’s why I’m starting to understand the mindset of putting yourself out there to get what you want out of life.
4. Seeing Things Black & White
I used to believe that you can only choose one thing to do for the rest of your life. At the time, I didn’t realize that you can do multiple things if it sparks your interest, passion, and talents. You can really put your mind to do anything you want as long as you’re dedicated, focus, and consistent.
Having a limited mindset didn’t allow me to grow into the person I wanted to be. There was no middle ground when trying to see the full picture. It was either all or nothing to bring together both positive or negative qualities of a situation. With this being done, I paid the consequences that I either regretted or couldn’t take back.
Not taking the initiative to travel around the world when I had the free time to do so was very disappointing. At the time traveling solo for me was unheard of. I use to believe if I couldn’t find someone to go away with me on a trip then I couldn’t go at all.
Now I realize it’s okay to take solo trips from time to time. It can be therapeutic that’s much needed. Traveling around the world is nice to do but also experiencing your local city, restaurants, and locations that you have never been to in your own hometown is just as important.
6. Learning to Invest
At the time, investing in my college education was the most important thing for me to build on. However, that shouldn’t have been the case when it came to my personal development.
After I had graduated from college, I should have invested more on goal settings, workshops on understanding finances, business development, budgeting, developing or enhancing skill sets, and training. All of these qualities could have helped me have a stronger foundation set up for my future.
Overall, the most important thing is being aware of my past mistakes and consciously not repeating the same mistakes in where I am today. I have the opportunity to correct all the wrong things I didn’t do in my 20’s and make them right in my current life.
What past mistakes or current ones you have learned at your age that you would like to change or improve on? Share below! I would love to hear from you.